At what point do you step in? If you are at a bar, completely sober, and you see an obviously drunk guy screaming the worst possible curses at a girl, laughing, getting in her face, the girl is saying nothing but looks like she is on the verge of tears...is it your business to step in?

 

Do you wait until the guy touches her? Mind your own business and just ignore it? Do you get a bartender/employee involved? What if they (the employees) had already been over there to say something, and the guy just wouldn't stop?

 

What do you do?

At what point do you step in? If you are at a bar, completely sober, and you see an obviously drunk guy screaming the worst possible curses at a girl, laughing, getting in her face, the girl is saying nothing but looks like she is on the verge of tears...is it your business to step in?

 

Do you wait until the guy touches her? Mind your own business and just ignore it? Do you get a bartender/employee involved? What if they (the employees) had already been over there to say something, and the guy just wouldn't stop?

What do you do?

 

That would be my sign, and I'd just talk to her, make him approach me. I'd ask her if he's presently a problem or if she'd like to leave. Obviously he'd probably start in on you at that point, but then things will probably end up progressing...

 

I'm too chivalrous to watch any girl be put down like that... I've never let it happen, and never will, and God help the guy I see put his hands on a girl, I don't care if it's a professional football linebacker, it ain't happening

At what point do you step in? If you are at a bar, completely sober, and you see an obviously drunk guy screaming the worst possible curses at a girl, laughing, getting in her face, the girl is saying nothing but looks like she is on the verge of tears...is it your business to step in?

 

Do you wait until the guy touches her? Mind your own business and just ignore it? Do you get a bartender/employee involved? What if they (the employees) had already been over there to say something, and the guy just wouldn't stop?

 

What do you do?

 

 

It depends. Is he her boyfriend or friend, or just some stranger?

 

I would probably tell the bartender.

At what point do you step in? If you are at a bar, completely sober, and you see an obviously drunk guy screaming the worst possible curses at a girl, laughing, getting in her face, the girl is saying nothing but looks like she is on the verge of tears...is it your business to step in?

 

Do you wait until the guy touches her? Mind your own business and just ignore it? Do you get a bartender/employee involved? What if they (the employees) had already been over there to say something, and the guy just wouldn't stop?

 

What do you do?

 

 

It depends. Is he her boyfriend or friend, or just some stranger?

 

I would probably tell the bartender.

 

 

turns out it was some stranger, but you don't know that at the time of the hypothetical, and the bartenders and staff had already been over.

I'd ask the bartender to get the guy out of there. I'm going to avoid getting between them as much as I can but I can only take so much before I step in.

Not to ruffle all the testosterone in here but, why doesn't the girl grow some balls and either move or tell this guy to leave her alone and then move somewhere else? Tell the bartender to call the police. Wouldn't you think it odd if this was a guy who was visually upset and girls posted these same replies?

 

Why does the guy always have to come to the rescue? We're not that helpless.

 

I'm gonna get slammed for this, I know it.

Not to ruffle all the testosterone in here but, why doesn't the girl grow some balls and either move or tell this guy to leave her alone and then move somewhere else? Tell the bartender to call the police. Wouldn't you think it odd if this was a guy who was visually upset and girls posted these same replies?

 

Why does the guy always have to come to the rescue? We're not that helpless.

 

I'm gonna get slammed for this, I know it.

 

Im absolutely fine with all that, it'd be a great display to see a girl stand up for herself like that.... but in this hypothetical, the girl is saying nothing and on the verge of tears... I'm usually one to defend those that can't defend themselves... this girl apparently isn't in an emotional state to defend herself for whatever reason (not my business) Regardless, I couldn't stand idly by... it's not my character, I'm too chivalrous...

I'd ask the bartender to get the guy out of there. I'm going to avoid getting between them as much as I can but I can only take so much before I step in.

That is how I feel. I would initially tell the staff, owner whoever is there. Being only a small fella I rather avoid the confrontation, but make others aware. Things continue to go bad then I will make a point to say something and see what happens.

Not to ruffle all the testosterone in here but, why doesn't the girl grow some balls and either move or tell this guy to leave her alone and then move somewhere else? Tell the bartender to call the police. Wouldn't you think it odd if this was a guy who was visually upset and girls posted these same replies?

 

Why does the guy always have to come to the rescue? We're not that helpless.

 

I'm gonna get slammed for this, I know it.

 

I know what you're saying and God bless women who can do that, but the fact is that most of them don't. I can't just sit there and watch.

If it's something that lasts for more than five minutes i'll step in. You can always call the staff to help, but your chances of getting laid are much better if you step in and kick his ass yourself.

Not to ruffle all the testosterone in here but, why doesn't the girl grow some balls and either move or tell this guy to leave her alone and then move somewhere else? Tell the bartender to call the police. Wouldn't you think it odd if this was a guy who was visually upset and girls posted these same replies?

 

Why does the guy always have to come to the rescue? We're not that helpless.

 

I'm gonna get slammed for this, I know it.

 

I know what you're saying and God bless women who can do that, but the fact is that most of them don't. I can't just sit there and watch.

 

 

What I find interesting is we all seem to subscribe to the Cinderella syndrome. Good girl is put upon by some bad people and waits to be rescued by the handsome prince. But, in the real world, that almost never happens. And what I find even more heinous is girls actually believe this will happen. Girls are taught (either consciously or subsconsciously) to take whatever abuse is heaped out and wait for someone to help them because that's the 'womanly' thing to do. Look at the number of battered women who stay. Aren't they more afraid of the next beating than leaving the lout? Me- I wouldn't stick around. I'm outta there and long gone before the bastard wakes up. It's such a shame we don't teach our sisters and daughters to become self-reliant. We should.

What I find interesting is we all seem to subscribe to the Cinderella syndrome. Good girl is put upon by some bad people and waits to be rescued by the handsome prince. But, in the real world, that almost never happens. And what I find even more heinous is girls actually believe this will happen. Girls are taught (either consciously or subsconsciously) to take whatever abuse is heaped out and wait for someone to help them because that's the 'womanly' thing to do. Look at the number of battered women who stay. Aren't they more afraid of the next beating than leaving the lout? Me- I wouldn't stick around. I'm outta there and long gone before the bastard wakes up. It's such a shame we don't teach our sisters and daughters to become self-reliant. We should.

 

I subscribe to the good person syndrome... I can't control what other people think, but the lead-up to this hypothetical question doesn't matter. I can't sit there and think "This'll teach her to be self-reliant" or "I'll just wait till he finally hits her" whatever the reason, if somebody (guy or girl) is taking undue crap from someone, it shouldn't just be one person standing up to make the bullying offenser knock it off... more people should... but don't be mistaken, I'll be the first one up.

 

In terms of battered women, I don't have any sort of experience with that fortunately, and I'm not making a joke. But yes, there are people who feel that leaving their boyfriend would be worse, why, I don't know. For what it's worth, my dad and I have made my sister self-reliant, and she's pretty kicked the crap out of people who overstep boundaries before...

For what it's worth, my dad and I have made my sister self-reliant, and she's pretty kicked the crap out of people who overstep boundaries before...

 

Awesome. She will never take crap from anyone.